Sounds like you're being very responsible and thorough in your sexual behavior. Great! You're a fine example of how it ought to be done. Your situation is NOT the sort of irresponsible sexual behavior I'm referring to however. I can easily distinguish between someone who has considered and tried all the alternatives, is stuck with relatively primitive forms of contraception that have high failure rates, and may need to ethically resort to abortion, with the consultation and consent of your spouse, as the only viable alternative to a dangerous pregnancy, should all your reasonable efforts fail, and the woman who pays no attention to any of it, fucks like a bunny and uses abortion as a form of contraception because she doesn't want to be bothered to even attempt any sort of ethical behavior before resorting to the killing of a living human being.Ronja wrote:And Ortho-Evra hormone patches http://www.orthoevra.com/what-is-patch- ... -work.html (need to be remembered every seven days) and NuvaRing http://www.nuvaring.com/Consumer/aboutN ... /index.asp (needs to be remembered twice per 28 days). And sterilization, of course.lordpasternack wrote:We have combined pills, progestogen-only pills, hormonal coils, copper coils, depo provera injections, progestogen implants, diaphragms and sponges with spermicide, and male and female condoms?
Edit: http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Contraceptio ... ption.aspx
I have always considered myself very lucky, partly because I live in a country and region where it is easy to find and afford a competent gynecologist and get contraceptives from pharmacies, and partly because I have always managed to find a comfortable and reliable method, at least after some hassle.
Yet, if you look at that rather long list of methods above: I'm too old for combined pills (which worked beautifully before 35, except for the stress of forgetting) and hormone patches, which both have too much estrogen -> trombosis risk, docs won't prescribe them anymore, progestogen-only pills killed my libido so all progesteron-based methods are suspect, I have had a coil for a week or so - it tried to come out on its own volition (and hurt like hell while doing so - I had to get back to the doctor very fast, and she said I should not try any kind of coil again), I'm allergic to every spermicide we've tried and also to the "glue" of the hormone patches.
So hubby and me, we are down to the various rubbers (diaphragms, male and female condoms) without spermicides, NuvaRing, and sterilization. Unless something has been forgotten from the list above? I am so relieved that NuvaRing exists and that my current gynecologist predicted that barring any surprises I should be able to use them until I'm 50. Nearing that (which is fairly soon) - M and I need to once again do our homework and discuss, and very likely consult my gynecologist.
So also someone who is mature and responsible regarding contraception and in a stable, monogamous relationship with a level-headed and supportive partner and has full access to all thinkable information and medical expertise, may have a non-trivial amount of difficulty when searching for a fitting contraceptive method. And, as has been pointed out before, every method even when used correctly can fail (also sterilization). That, combined with that it is better for a child to be born wanted / welcome than not, and that an early enough abortion is far safer than a full-term pregnancy + birth are the main reasons why I think abortion on demand should be as widely and as easily available as possible.
Late term abortions of non-viable fetuses or to save the mother's life are also a no-brainer from where I look at it. To have someone be born just to die (likely painfully and slowly) is cruelty, which we would not subject animals to, so why humans? And an already existing, fully developed human being is worth more in my book than a fetus.
Just my 2 bits, of course. Your mileage will vary.
And, it's necessary to mention that you elide the most effective form of birth control that exists: abstinence.