A good push is usually necessary when I'm doing a number 2.Devogue wrote:I love being married.
However, at a push I would go for number 2.

A good push is usually necessary when I'm doing a number 2.Devogue wrote:I love being married.
However, at a push I would go for number 2.
First thing to ignore is BAA's advice.born-again-atheist wrote:WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU THINKING!?
Don't ask these people for advice. Ever.
That post alone screams "Don't even consider it!"BMF wrote:Yes. The one who loves least controls the relationship. It's a power-and-control issue.Charlou wrote:Economics of marriage I get, but economics of love ... ?
+1Bella Fortuna wrote:That post alone screams "Don't even consider it!"BMF wrote:Yes. The one who loves least controls the relationship. It's a power-and-control issue.Charlou wrote:Economics of marriage I get, but economics of love ... ?
Second thing is to ignore 'Zilla's advice ...Gawdzilla wrote:First thing to ignore is BAA's advice.born-again-atheist wrote:WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU THINKING!?
Don't ask these people for advice. Ever.
And whatever you do don't listen to klr.klr wrote:Second thing is to ignore 'Zilla's advice ...Gawdzilla wrote:First thing to ignore is BAA's advice.born-again-atheist wrote:WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU THINKING!?
Don't ask these people for advice. Ever.
To the contrary, you're right on the money with a lot of it, and very close with other bits.andrewclunn wrote:The only way to deal with this is to speculate wildly:
Face it, you're getting older and while the independence has been good, your desire for something more personable is building as old age looms ahead. This could be your last real chance to have that kind of life. Oh, but she's not really someone you're sure you can have that kind of relationship with. It would be totally physical and you know it, so would that really work for you? You know if it were a fling, you'd take it in a heart beat. You know that if it were someone you felt a real connection with you'd take it though perhaps more begrudgingly. But the sad truth is she's quickly approaching 30 and you're getting older, and the whole thing smells of desperation. Some people grow on each other, but are you willing to take that risk, and are you even still capable of doing that, or has life made you too jaded?
End speculation that may or may not be way off.
Wait, that wasn't my idea. I read it in some psychology journal years ago. I subsequently observed various relationships in light of it, including some of my own, and found it to be largely true. I didn't say that to be pessimistic or calculating.Bella Fortuna wrote:That post alone screams "Don't even consider it!"BMF wrote:Yes. The one who loves least controls the relationship. It's a power-and-control issue.Charlou wrote:Economics of marriage I get, but economics of love ... ?
BMF wrote:Wait, that wasn't my idea. I read it in some psychology journal years ago. I subsequently observed various relationships in light of it, including some of my own, and found it to be largely true. I didn't say that to be pessimistic or calculating.Bella Fortuna wrote:That post alone screams "Don't even consider it!"BMF wrote:Yes. The one who loves least controls the relationship. It's a power-and-control issue.Charlou wrote:Economics of marriage I get, but economics of love ... ?
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