kiki I'm sorry that I misread you. I interpreted some of your comments as if you meant that you (based on age and experience) know better than LP herself how she should handle this situation. And I don't think anyone is ever in that position (among mentally competent enough grownups, that is). But this appears to have been more in my eye than in your intended message, so I apologize for coming across as unfriendly.kiki5711 wrote:Well, that's kind of exactly what I was trying to say but with different words. Being true to yourself is sometimes a complex learning experience. Sometimes it works for you and sometimes against you. All I was trying to say is just that. To take this whole episode as a learning experience.Ronja wrote:kiki, LP is not your daughter and she has her own way of dealing with things. How about you accept that and let go for your part?
Being true to oneself is one of the most important lessons we are trying to teach our daughters (they are now about half LP's age). The most demanding / complex part of it may well be how to combine personal integrity with living in a society, working and communicating with other people. I expect to be learning about that for as long as my brain will work.
Peace.
I was only trying to be supportive and I have nothing to let go since I'm not stuck in this. Why are you dissing me about it? Well, never mind, it don't matter, as we all are allowed to express our thoughts.
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No problem. I'm 54 and still learning. I tell you one thing, I would never want to be in my 20s again. Auchy, mistakes gallore, one of them being marrying the wrong person the first time around. And only at 40 did I finally accept that my mother was never going to change and I'd just accept her freaky nature as is. Yea some of us take longer to learn than others. I hope my daughters take some of my advice, it will save them years of frustration. Never know if they will or not. Nothing I can do about it. It's their life.Ronja wrote:kiki I'm sorry that I misread you. I interpreted some of your comments as if you meant that you (based on age and experience) know better than LP herself how she should handle this situation. And I don't think anyone is ever in that position (among mentally competent enough grownups, that is). But this appears to have been more in my eye than in your intended message, so I apologize for coming across as unfriendly.kiki5711 wrote:Well, that's kind of exactly what I was trying to say but with different words. Being true to yourself is sometimes a complex learning experience. Sometimes it works for you and sometimes against you. All I was trying to say is just that. To take this whole episode as a learning experience.Ronja wrote:kiki, LP is not your daughter and she has her own way of dealing with things. How about you accept that and let go for your part?
Being true to oneself is one of the most important lessons we are trying to teach our daughters (they are now about half LP's age). The most demanding / complex part of it may well be how to combine personal integrity with living in a society, working and communicating with other people. I expect to be learning about that for as long as my brain will work.
Peace.
I was only trying to be supportive and I have nothing to let go since I'm not stuck in this. Why are you dissing me about it? Well, never mind, it don't matter, as we all are allowed to express our thoughts.
Sorry to steal this thread "all about memememe" but I just wanted to explain more.
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I think what you've contributed is positive, Kiki - and it's part of what I like about friends made through these boards (who tend to be intelligent), and speaking to older people in general.
I still remember a conversation with Durro (a forum member most active on RatSkep these days), and the woman who went by the name Aesthetic Atheist on RD.net, late on the Saturday night of the Atheist Convention in Melbourne in 2010. Durro said he thought he had it all sussed by the time he was about 15; then got to 21 and realised he didn't know anything back then, but he had it all sussed now; then got to 30 and realised how little he knew back then, but that he definitely knew it all now; then got to 40… and you get the picture…
And purely incidentally, I just saw one of my benign e-stalkers reading this thread.
I still remember a conversation with Durro (a forum member most active on RatSkep these days), and the woman who went by the name Aesthetic Atheist on RD.net, late on the Saturday night of the Atheist Convention in Melbourne in 2010. Durro said he thought he had it all sussed by the time he was about 15; then got to 21 and realised he didn't know anything back then, but he had it all sussed now; then got to 30 and realised how little he knew back then, but that he definitely knew it all now; then got to 40… and you get the picture…

And purely incidentally, I just saw one of my benign e-stalkers reading this thread.

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And I for sorrow sung,
That such a king should play bo-peep,
And go the fools among.
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And I for sorrow sung,
That such a king should play bo-peep,
And go the fools among.
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I won't call him out, but I know him in person, he's nice, and he fancies me - and he once said to me, in a very good-humoured tone, when we were discussing where we lived: "Oh no, don't tell me where you live. Then I'll just stalk you."borealis wrote:lordpasternack wrote: And purely incidentally. I just saw one of my benign e-stalkers reading this thread.

Then they for sudden joy did weep,
And I for sorrow sung,
That such a king should play bo-peep,
And go the fools among.
Prithee, nuncle, keep a schoolmaster that can teach
thy fool to lie: I would fain learn to lie.
And I for sorrow sung,
That such a king should play bo-peep,
And go the fools among.
Prithee, nuncle, keep a schoolmaster that can teach
thy fool to lie: I would fain learn to lie.
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LP:
Please accept my apology. I got into a thread that had been going on for a long time and I did not know the history. I did not know your relationship with RDF so I just assumed you were a nut. I realize now I had no business offering you advice about this issue.
Jay G.
Please accept my apology. I got into a thread that had been going on for a long time and I did not know the history. I did not know your relationship with RDF so I just assumed you were a nut. I realize now I had no business offering you advice about this issue.
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Thanks Jay G. 

Then they for sudden joy did weep,
And I for sorrow sung,
That such a king should play bo-peep,
And go the fools among.
Prithee, nuncle, keep a schoolmaster that can teach
thy fool to lie: I would fain learn to lie.
And I for sorrow sung,
That such a king should play bo-peep,
And go the fools among.
Prithee, nuncle, keep a schoolmaster that can teach
thy fool to lie: I would fain learn to lie.
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Oh, and just one last dig - as per the 'blackmail' charge… As I said on the 5th of November:

"Your motives for remaining silent should be of far more concern to you than anyone's motives for asking for evidence."
How trollish of me.

"Your motives for remaining silent should be of far more concern to you than anyone's motives for asking for evidence."
How trollish of me.

Then they for sudden joy did weep,
And I for sorrow sung,
That such a king should play bo-peep,
And go the fools among.
Prithee, nuncle, keep a schoolmaster that can teach
thy fool to lie: I would fain learn to lie.
And I for sorrow sung,
That such a king should play bo-peep,
And go the fools among.
Prithee, nuncle, keep a schoolmaster that can teach
thy fool to lie: I would fain learn to lie.
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And can I just add, as another parting shot - one thing that bothers me now is Paula's, or whoever's, mixed feelings about whether to be decent or spiteful to me. Deleting all of my posts in a particular account was just spiteful. It wasn't horribly spiteful - but it was nothing BUT spiteful. Especially when you factor that my posts were reinstated, only to be eviscerated wholesale again. It was simple spite - if wavering temporarily towards good faith. What's the point of that?
And my requests for information on RDFRS… Anyone who had read my initial emails could have been in little doubt about my sincerity and honesty. I did not blackmail them. Richard is probably only going on her say-so that I did blackmail them. Refusing to respond to my simple enquiry seems, again, nothing but spiteful. And since I don't honestly think there was any indication of blackmail in my emails - I think it was dishonest as well as spiteful to give Richard that impression. And I just don't like that. I can't help but feel that I'm owed an apology in this, too, to be frank. But whatever…
I evidently have justified grievances against them, which they chose to exacerbate rather than resolve, here. And other than my occasional testiness and pushiness when I get in a tizz about something, or am picking a scab - their grievances against me are mostly fictional and imagined.
And my requests for information on RDFRS… Anyone who had read my initial emails could have been in little doubt about my sincerity and honesty. I did not blackmail them. Richard is probably only going on her say-so that I did blackmail them. Refusing to respond to my simple enquiry seems, again, nothing but spiteful. And since I don't honestly think there was any indication of blackmail in my emails - I think it was dishonest as well as spiteful to give Richard that impression. And I just don't like that. I can't help but feel that I'm owed an apology in this, too, to be frank. But whatever…
I evidently have justified grievances against them, which they chose to exacerbate rather than resolve, here. And other than my occasional testiness and pushiness when I get in a tizz about something, or am picking a scab - their grievances against me are mostly fictional and imagined.
Then they for sudden joy did weep,
And I for sorrow sung,
That such a king should play bo-peep,
And go the fools among.
Prithee, nuncle, keep a schoolmaster that can teach
thy fool to lie: I would fain learn to lie.
And I for sorrow sung,
That such a king should play bo-peep,
And go the fools among.
Prithee, nuncle, keep a schoolmaster that can teach
thy fool to lie: I would fain learn to lie.
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The face burned in your toast looks familiar.
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lordpasternack wrote:Actually I must add...
lordpasternack wrote:...Just briefly, though...
lordpasternack wrote:Oh, and just one last dig...
Anything else?lordpasternack wrote:And can I just add...


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I'm just about fully detoxed now, I think…Horwood Beer-Master wrote:lordpasternack wrote:Actually I must add...lordpasternack wrote:...Just briefly, though...lordpasternack wrote:Oh, and just one last dig...Anything else?lordpasternack wrote:And can I just add...

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I can neither confirm nor deny if it's supposed to be an infamous satirical impression of the prophet Muhammad.Jay G wrote:The face burned in your toast looks familiar.

Then they for sudden joy did weep,
And I for sorrow sung,
That such a king should play bo-peep,
And go the fools among.
Prithee, nuncle, keep a schoolmaster that can teach
thy fool to lie: I would fain learn to lie.
And I for sorrow sung,
That such a king should play bo-peep,
And go the fools among.
Prithee, nuncle, keep a schoolmaster that can teach
thy fool to lie: I would fain learn to lie.
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I just re-read this, and it really fucking hurt - more than the first reading. And even though I know that it is somewhat factually inaccurate, and that it doesn't sit with what my intentions were, and that Richard has apologised, and that I've in some way set the record straight - it still upsets me. I get so stupidly worked up about things. I can be such an idiot. I can't bear myself, sometimes.What we won't do, however, is respond to individuals who have been put on a black list due to a long history of persistent, excessive, stalker-like contact, ranging from obsessive, daily harassment to out-and-out hate mail; and nor, of course, will we under any circumstances respond to attempted blackmail, whatever form that might take.
Sorry…
Then they for sudden joy did weep,
And I for sorrow sung,
That such a king should play bo-peep,
And go the fools among.
Prithee, nuncle, keep a schoolmaster that can teach
thy fool to lie: I would fain learn to lie.
And I for sorrow sung,
That such a king should play bo-peep,
And go the fools among.
Prithee, nuncle, keep a schoolmaster that can teach
thy fool to lie: I would fain learn to lie.
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LP:lordpasternack wrote:I just re-read this, and it really fucking hurt - more than the first reading. And even though I know that it is somewhat factually inaccurate, and that it doesn't sit with what my intentions were, and that Richard has apologised, and that I've in some way set the record straight - it still upsets me. I get so stupidly worked up about things. I can be such an idiot. I can't bear myself, sometimes.What we won't do, however, is respond to individuals who have been put on a black list due to a long history of persistent, excessive, stalker-like contact, ranging from obsessive, daily harassment to out-and-out hate mail; and nor, of course, will we under any circumstances respond to attempted blackmail, whatever form that might take.
Sorry…

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