The economics of love, marriage, etc. Is this a good deal?

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The economics of love, marriage, etc. Is this a good deal?

Post by FBM » Wed Nov 04, 2009 9:40 am

Standard economics is some boring shit. But a couple of years ago I read Freakonomics by...some guy, and found out that the principles of economics can be applied to a very wide range of phenomena. In the book, for example, the author embeds himself in a crack-dealing gang in Chicago in order to answer the question 'Why do crack dealers live with their mom?' or something like that. He also uses the principles of economics to figure out what makes a good parent, how/why sumo wrestlers cheat, and other interesting stuff you'd never associate with economics.

So today I get another e-mail from a young lady I met in Vietnam about 7 years ago. She sent the first one about a week ago, out of the blue. Reading between the lines of the 2nd e-mail, it looks like she's hot to get married and seems to be offering herself to me, though in the typical indirect Asian way.

Just as an intellectual exercise, I'd like to present this situation for discussion/debate. Here are a few of the key elements, mostly from my perspective, since I don't know much about her:

I'm pretty happy single. I don't get laid nearly enough, but more than some singles. I rely on the occasional fling and prostitution, though infrequently since the goddamn Christian-led nationwide crackdown :lay: . My personality is such that I need a great deal of time alone. I'm very involved in philosophy and things like making money, having friends, owning shit, etc, don't mean much to me at all. I was married for 2 years in the States before coming to Korea, and I hated married life. I don't like to talk to people or even be around them much; I only do it out of necessity. You get the idea. Also, I'm 47, so my prospects for occasional flings are waning, though prostitutes aren't so selective.

They say that you don't marry just an individual; you marry the whole family. Well, in Asia that's taken to the nth degree.
Here's the e-mail:
Hi,
Im so happy for your email too. And i also happy when you remember me. So very long time we are dont contact together but you are still remember me.
Im fine, im still leaving in HCM City , and im still saler girl but different place.My everything is the same from few years ago. I will send to you some my ficture for you look .I do it at my shop. I dont know what have i change for few years ago....?
So, why you dont get married? Are you busy or you dont like some the girls? Are you dont like Korea girl? The girl from Korea verry beautiful . How the girl do you like? pls, tell me know. When do you come back Vienam agian. If you come here i will intrudoce my young sister to you. She is 26 year old and she is accoutant. She is look like me.
Ok, see you soon.
Take care my friend.
Kissssss.
Nxxxxxxxx
There were also some pics, but I'm not sure that posting them is cool with forum rules, since she hasn't given consent. She's pretty fucking hot. :shock: So...pursue or not? Any input welcome.
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Post by Trolldor » Wed Nov 04, 2009 9:46 am

WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU THINKING!?
Don't ask these people for advice. Ever.
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Post by angrychimp » Wed Nov 04, 2009 9:50 am

Many years ago a relative of mine married an asian woman.
At some point she became convinced he was cheating.....so she tried (and I emphasise 'tried') to cut off his crown jewels.


I'm just saying...... :dono:
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Post by Trolldor » Wed Nov 04, 2009 9:51 am

Well, for shits and giggles I should add:
Never marry someone just because. Seriously. And also, even if she is 'fucking hot' like it matters. Ain't gonna make no difference if you've no real interest in the thing.
Also, WHY ARE YOU ASKING RATIONALIA FOR ADVICE?
Suicidal bastard.
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Post by FBM » Wed Nov 04, 2009 9:53 am

born-again-atheist wrote:WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU THINKING!?
Don't ask these people for advice. Ever.
I was just hoping for a little serious discussion into the economics involved, not actual advice.

It's not like I'm going to listen to them, anyway. :whisper:

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Post by Feck » Wed Nov 04, 2009 9:57 am

No She said if she had got too old for you and had changed verry much ,then would you like her younger sister .It seems to me the family just want to marry off at least one daughter.Don't do It Man you will be expected to take her back to the States as your wife and run a business .
Your deepest and most profound thoughts will be constantly interupted by a nagging wife ,sister and mother.


Of course if you want to send the 26 yr old one to me :whisper: .......Tell her I will be verry rich when my frail old parents die . :twisted:
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Post by FBM » Wed Nov 04, 2009 9:59 am

Feck wrote:No She said if she had got too old for you and had changed verry much ,then would you like her younger sister .It seems to me the family just want to marry off at least one daughter.Don't do It Man you will be expected to take her back to the States as your wife and run a business .
Your deepest and most profound thoughts will be constantly interupted by a nagging wife ,sister and mother.


Of course if you want to send the 26 yr old one to me :whisper: .......Tell her I will be verry rich when my frail old parents die . :twisted:
:what: I'm taking the 26-y.o., dude. You can take the 28-y.o. hag.

Speaking of, would it be against the rules for me to post her pics?
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Post by FBM » Wed Nov 04, 2009 10:30 am

Somebody let me know if posting these pics is wrong:

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Post by FBM » Wed Nov 04, 2009 10:39 am

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Re: The economics of love, marriage, etc. Is this a good deal?

Post by charlou » Wed Nov 04, 2009 10:47 am

Economics of marriage I get, but economics of love ... ?
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Post by FBM » Wed Nov 04, 2009 10:49 am

Charlou wrote:Economics of marriage I get, but economics of love ... ?
Yes. The one who loves least controls the relationship. It's a power-and-control issue.
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Post by charlou » Wed Nov 04, 2009 10:54 am

Right.

May or may not come back to this later. :ddpan:
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Post by FBM » Wed Nov 04, 2009 11:08 am

Charlou wrote:Right.

May or may not come back to this later. :ddpan:
Sorry. I think I farted in church yet again. :oops:
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Post by devogue » Wed Nov 04, 2009 11:10 am

I love being married.

However, at a push I would go for number 2.
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