Alright, so I have been absent for quite some time, but I thought that I might come back for some advice from my fellow freethinkers. I have been happily married for over six years, but have never really wanted an orthodox marriage. Over the last couple of years, one of my female coworkers has been flirting with me. At first I just sort of brushed it off, but after a while I must admit that I became rather intrigued. I told her straight up that I would/could never cheat on my wife. I told her that if anything was ever to happen between us, it would have to be with my wife's consent and participation. Believe it or not, when I told her this, she began texting my wife. Since then, there has been mutual flirtation between her and my wife and secretly between her and I. All of this flirtation culminated in a threesome about a month ago. After this though, this girl has been rather aloof. She says that she felt as though she crossed a line that night and she didn't want to ever do that again. To be perfectly honest, I have been rather distraught over this because I had actually developed some pretty strong feelings for this other girl that went far beyond simple friendship. I had hoped (perhaps foolishly) that we could all live happily together. We all got along great as friends and there was very strong sexual tension from every perspective. My wife has been rather upset by this girl's new attitude too, but nowhere near as bad as I have. I love the both of them. Do you think that there is any chance of a continued relationship with this girl or should I just get over it?
And in the interest of full disclosure, I do feel the need to mention that I have posted this very question on a couple of other atheist forums that I frequent. I'm just looking for as much advice as possible.
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If you use the bible as your moral compass, chances are you're lost.
When Jesus said "let he who is without sin cast the first stone" he wasn't saying that people shouldn't be stoned. He was requesting the first pitch.
When Jesus said "let he who is without sin cast the first stone" he wasn't saying that people shouldn't be stoned. He was requesting the first pitch.
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It can happen with the right people involved, but it's rare. 
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If she's lost interest or doesn't feel right about it, probably best you all move on and just think of it as a nice (and rather sexy) experience?
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A couple have 1 relationship to work on. A three way relationship has 4. Three couple relationships and one threesome. That's four times as many relationships.
I wouldn't be thinking that's four times the chance of success. At least not long term. But good luck with it.
I wouldn't be thinking that's four times the chance of success. At least not long term. But good luck with it.
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Fuck 'em. 
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