FBM wrote:I refuse to be aggressive about my beliefs and preferences. I'll politely voice my opinions, if asked, about the unnecessary cruelty to animals and other issues, but I won't get into an argument about them, nor will I nurture a spirit of intolerance. I recognize others' right to make their own decisions based on their own values. "We've got a right to see it wrong if freedom's to survive." (OK, it's just from an old Steppenwolf song, but I like it.) It doesn't bother me that others see things differently. Why would I expect things to be different? It's not like I consider myself to be omniscient or inerrant.
I disagree strongly with torturing dogs to death, so I don't torture dogs to death. I'm not on a Crusade over it. My present reality is that I'm in Korea, not the US or Europe or Oz. Some people eat dogs here. If I'm invited to dinner by friends or colleagues, and the majority want to eat dog, I eat dog. If I can politely persuade them to choose a different restaurant, I will. However, it's incumbent upon me to respect the culture of the country that I'm voluntarily living in; not to launch a crusade to convert it to Western values. Likewise, I would appreciate it if they didn't try to convert my home country to their values if they chose to live in the US. That's just basic mutual respect, tolerance and peaceful co-existence.
I live in Asia, same as you, as I have lived in many other cultural regions, and I have had this topic of conversation weekly for the past 8 years.
Any tradition is eventually called to be respected as a cultural value, but they are not. They are simple primitive traditions that are no pity to lose. We are not talking about folk songs. We are talking about barbarism. The dogs in this topic. The bullfighting in my motherland. Slavery in Mauritania (yes. In the s.XXI). The misogyny in Arab countries. Female genital mutilation... All kind of aberrations are done in the name of culture. They are just barbaric cruel traditions, elegies to torture; and to get rid of them has a name: Progress.
I can't fight all those monstrosities, but I can and I will eliminate them from my space of influence which is me, my home, my work and social circles, and anyone who has professional or personal interest on me.
When they have taken me to a dog restaurant, or they serve me dog in a restaurant, I stand up and leave. Period. That company has lost a contract and maybe more, because I will not recommend them to any. And seeming silly, it is not, because in very short years I have created a feeling of shame about that in the people within my influence, that I'm sure it leads towards the abandon of that tradition in some of them. It is not funny any more. It is dangerous, because they risk my favor for eating dog.
And I did the same in Arab countries with other aspects of their "culture", and in Africa. Ignorance and cruelty is never culture and if I stay silent about it to those who, at least, listen willingfully or dutyfully to me, I would be worth less than a fart in the wind under my own eyes.