Gay marriage, what do you think?

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Post by Coito ergo sum » Mon Apr 01, 2013 11:49 am

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JimC wrote:What I find very irritating is churches campaigning against it. Naturally, they have a right not to conduct marriage ceremonies for gays within their churches, but they want to extend that to an area that's none of their business, civil marriage services, which is what most gay couples would want, I'd imagine...

PS - If gay marriage was legal, but a pair of gays was moaning because they couldn't get married in church like their parents, I'd tell 'em tough shit...
In all fairness, they're not wanting to extend. They're wanting to preserve the status quo. Gay marriage is new, and the civil law never permitted it in the western world until, like 10 years ago, and most places on the globe still don't permit it.
The Australian Commonwealth Marriage Act (1961) contradicts this. In 2004 it was amended to specifically define marriage as the union between a man and a woman. The amendment reads thus:
  • Marriage means the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.

    Certain unions are not marriages. A union solemnised in a foreign country between: (a) a man and another man; or (b) a woman and another woman; must not be recognised as a marriage in Australia
Previous to 1961 there was no Commonwealth law regarding marriage. The matter was left in the hands of the state governments. The amendment is the only change made to the act since its inception and the present.
Well -- that is true as far as it goes. However, Section 46 of the Marriage Act commanded celebrants of marriages (those performing the ceremony) to explain the nature of marriage to the couple involved. http://www.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/ ... 5/s46.html This incorporated the language of the case law at the time, from a case called Hyde v Hyde (1866) LR 1 P&D 130 and in that case Lord Penzance wrote, ‘marriage, as understood in Christendom, may for this purpose be defined as the voluntary union for life of one man and one woman to the exclusion of all others.' Essentially, the legislature assumed the common law definition of marriage in the western world.

In 1961, the idea of a man and a man getting married was laughable. It wasn't even entertained as a serious notion. And, frankly, it would likely have been considered an admission of the crime of sodomy, which which was a crime in Australia until the mid 1970s. It really strains credulity to think that a legislature criminalized a man and a man fucking, but legalized their marriage.

I get why pro gay marriage folks want to portray this as "taking away" rights, but really -- the fact remains that the 1960s and 70s were considered progressive at the time because they decriminalized same sex relationships and merely recast them as a mental disorder to be treated. Prior to the 1960s, they were jailed and a few decades earlier, hanged.
Hermit wrote: Having said all that, let me register my opinion that I do not care about the institutions of marriage one jot. Prime Minister Gough Whitlam began legislating rights for partners who are in a de facto relationship in the early 70s. Since Kevin Rudd cleaned up the remaining legislative inequities before he was turfed out by the right wing of the party he lead, that institution has become redundant from a legislative point of view. Except, of course, for those who see it as a backstop for their antiquated moral tenets.
Yes, I would support either elimination of all civil unions and instead just treat everyone as individuals, or alternatively just allow for any marriage of one human and another human, and leave it at that.

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Post by Coito ergo sum » Mon Apr 01, 2013 12:00 pm

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Coito ergo sum wrote: Look at a plural marriage --

A marries B, and they have a child. A and B then agree to marry C and A and C have a child. They all live together as a family for 10 years. Then B divorces A and C divorces B. A earns $100,000 per year, B $50,000 per year, and C was a stay at home parent for both children for the entire 10 years. Assuming they can't agree on anything amicably, who gets custody of the kids? Does C get custody of both as a stay at home parent? Or does C only get custody of the one child who C is biologically connected to? Does the child of A and B have any right to association with C, since that child (although not biologically C's) has a 10 year relationship with C? What about alimony/spousal support? Does A have to pay C and B both? Does B have to pay C too?

alternative complication -- Same as above, except that C divorces B because C has begun to hate B, but C stays married to A. A also stays married to B. Does B have to pay spousal support to C? Can C still live in the same house as his/her spouse A? Should the court order C to leave the house? Why not B? Don't they all have rights in the home? Can C compel a sale of the home, like in a regular divorce case, even though A and B still want to live there and A and C are still married?
I believe you are thinking the wrong way around this one Coito. What you are telling are actually reasons why this should be allowed and not the other way. Currently, those situations do happen in real life for real people. But they are not regulated in law in any way, which means that the weakest (often the kids) are defenceless. E.g. I personally know lesbian couples, who have kids, where the biological father is a gay man, and he has a working parent relationship with the kids. These kids factually have three sociological parents, but the law does not recognize this, and allows only two legal parents for any child (at least here), so these kids are less secure in cases of divorce or death, than they could and should be. True, this isn't really about plural marriage, but parenthood and marriage are so closely linked in our society, that it is hard to see how one could be changed without affecting the other.

oh, and BTW: fuck yeah, Sotomayor
No, I don't think so. Now, the care for the children goes by biology, and we simply have a rule that the biological mother and father have the obligation of care and support for their biological child. Most of the time, no other persons have legal rights to the child. Most of the time, folks aren't living in plural "marriage" relationships because the third or fourth wheels don't have legal rights to the marital home, marital assets and the children. If you add a third or fourth wheel to the marriage relationship, now you have not just two adults with colliding interests and rights, but three or four, and the complexities expand exponentially with each added person.

Take two people married, and then a third person is involved with the consent of the two married people. Nowadays, that person is not likely to move into the house and be involved from a care and support, financial, etc., sense, because that person has no spousal rights. However, give that person spousal rights, and now he or she is not there at the mere pleasure of the married couple -- he or she is now a coequal actor.

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Re: Gay marriage, what do you think?

Post by Gawdzilla Sama » Mon Apr 01, 2013 12:02 pm

Yes, I would support either elimination of all civil unions and instead just treat everyone as individuals, or alternatively just allow for any marriage of one human and another human, and leave it at that.
You'd still need laws for who gets what when people break up or one party dies.
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Post by Coito ergo sum » Mon Apr 01, 2013 12:29 pm

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Yes, I would support either elimination of all civil unions and instead just treat everyone as individuals, or alternatively just allow for any marriage of one human and another human, and leave it at that.
You'd still need laws for who gets what when people break up or one party dies.
Yes, but we have a fairly serviceable set of laws for two person relationships.

And, now that men and women are equal under the law, we can use general contract principles if we were to eliminate the whole institution of marriage/civil union altogether. Just have everyone enter into whatever prenuptual type agreements they want, and then hold them responsible for their offspring.

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Re: Gay marriage, what do you think?

Post by Gawdzilla Sama » Mon Apr 01, 2013 12:37 pm

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Yes, I would support either elimination of all civil unions and instead just treat everyone as individuals, or alternatively just allow for any marriage of one human and another human, and leave it at that.
You'd still need laws for who gets what when people break up or one party dies.
Yes, but we have a fairly serviceable set of laws for two person relationships.

And, now that men and women are equal under the law, we can use general contract principles if we were to eliminate the whole institution of marriage/civil union altogether. Just have everyone enter into whatever prenuptual type agreements they want, and then hold them responsible for their offspring.
Marriage law handles a lot of what happens in the above situations. We'd need to get that straight, and I don't see that happening easily or smoothly.
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Re: Gay marriage, what do you think?

Post by Evabot » Mon Apr 01, 2013 11:17 pm

I've had some whiskey...for a moment there I thought people were directing lesbian comments towards me. :thinks:


anyway... :drunk:
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Post by Gawdzilla Sama » Tue Apr 02, 2013 12:10 am

Evabot wrote:I've had some whiskey...for a moment there I thought people were directing lesbian comments towards me. :thinks:
5, 4, 3,...
anyway... :drunk:
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Re: Gay marriage, what do you think?

Post by rainbow » Tue Apr 02, 2013 6:36 am

Coito ergo sum wrote: Yes, I would support either elimination of all civil unions and instead just treat everyone as individuals, or alternatively just allow for any marriage of one human and another human, and leave it at that.
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